Life is a theater!!!

 Again went to Gujarat side, for social reasons with The Gardner. Now I have decided...I will not complain...aah about being tired...what else you think Ha ha!!
  You must be wondering about my Title,' Life is a theater.'...really I read such a beautiful article in the magazine about people in our life!!! I really thought the writer is me!! So many times I have felt that way... He said that invite your audience carefully in your life, as not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives!! There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It is amazing that you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships or a friendship.
    Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift you up & which ones lean?? Which ones encourages & which ones discourages?? Which ones are path of growth uphill & which ones are going downhill?? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?? Which ones always have some dramas or don't really understand, know or appreciates you??? (I bet you are also wondering about this)
    The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you....the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be removed to the balcony of your LIFE. If you cannot change the people around you, CHANGE the people around you!! Remember the people we hang with will have an impact on both our lives and our outcome!! So we must be careful to choose the people we hang out with, as well as the information with which we FEED our minds.... It’s your choice & your life. Man it’s so true!! So bloody dame true!! 
    Like I said in my previous Views, we can't choose our family but after certain age, and the gravity of relationships I think it should be allowed.... well lately with my experiences I have become master of letting go of bad relations.... like the author said I  weighed all pros & cons of all reasons!! And I found more negatives, more discomfort, more downhill in some relations!!  So I decided to let them go from my life!! Firstly I needed lots of courage to let it go... a stoned heart to let it go...and believe me I suffered, pained, lots of disturbed nights... and I told them exactly how I felt and I didn't get shocked or surprised response !! Something died within me!!  I felt so wasted!! Nobody even tried to save those relationships!!! In the beginning...why it’s happening with me syndrome....and then after a while I felt completely relived. And in my opinion they were also relived!! And it proved that those relationships were not meant for front row seats in my life!! 
      But I am very thankful to those relations who have taught me very important lessons of my life. I think I am fortunate that I am aware of it now otherwise imagine the harm it would have continuously created to my faith and trust?? Those relations have shown me their true faces and characters!! That is a benefit for me. I have come to know or learn that this kind of relations will only hurt you, so don't make many more, don't get too close, don't trust people very easily and most importantly don't put your time, energy, love and feedback too much in people again... Well I choose to fight a bad relationship with a silence.... because no words or blows or arguments can repair or reconstruct those relations again.... If the feelings, affections & respect are taken for granted and that it is still continuously misunderstood then there is no need to repair those relationships!!!! But still I think they were chosen by me so maybe I can love them from distance!!!!

      There comes a point in your life, where you realize,
      Who matters, who never did, who won't anymore....and who always will be:
      There is always a reason why they didn't make it to your future!!!!

So, I don't worry much about the people from my past now....they can enjoy my life from the balcony......The cycle of life moves on. It brings fresh faces and ideas. It brings new commitments, challenges, hope and fulfillment. Desire to be better, to improve, to take a stand!!

પરસ્પરના જીવનના માર્ગ તો સહેલા બની જશે
છુટ્ટા પડવું જ છે તો ચાલ, હૈયાને સખત કરીએ
હૃદય જેવી તો વસ્તુ ક્યાં રહી છે આ જમાનામાં?
હવે ઓ દિલ, ચાલ કોઈ બુદ્ધિની રમત કરીએ.

     love always billa driftwood.