Well, I know that this is a late for my introduction, but I was asked by some friends that I should write something about me! Ha-ha… What I can write? I was born in Itola (Gujarat) at my mother’s place, raised in Karamsad, my father’s place, & lived in Bombay, Gandhidham, & Charlotte (USA). My life has been a kaleidoscope of different cultures & people.
We had a joint family living in Bombay (City) of two brothers. 11 siblings & four parents & not forgetting Foi(Aunt) living only few yards away!! In sixties the house was getting full with so many other cousins or relatives who would end up living in the house for some XYZ reasons. So my Uncle & Aunt decided to live in Karamsad (Hometown). So my taciturn middle sister & I at the age of eight moved with them. I did my schooling there. There I made my lifelong friends. Resh, Renu & pratima. The unforgettable faces which made some or none significant impact in my life… Deepakben, Nirmalben, patel Sir, Mahesh, KP, Bakul,Maniba, Pandit Maharaj, Labhu......Ba,Bapuji, Laxmikaki, Akuji…The most good traits of myself I got here are survival instinct & self respect. (Or pride) The belonging to the roots. Too fight against the odds. I was always bold; dare devil kind of teen ager, who loved to mingle with people…which sometimes were wrong choices…but in my point of view that made me learn to know the other side of the nature too. Karamsad bringing-up gave me wide angle to understand, how society (Samaj…)) works in a traditionally ways & so on…Apart from some disturb memories… I think I had my best years of my life here…But staying away from my parents…has always haunted me.
 |
| Karmsad |
 |
| 1975 |
Marriage to the Gardner brought me to the Gandhidham. I bloomed in multicultural society of this city. Here I learned how the other society(not like our samaj)) works…different people from different state…everything was different, the language, the code of dressing, the food, the beliefs & many more…I felt like I was thrown in the totally new world, but with the patience & understanding from The Gardner I immediately felt at home. The atmosphere of this city sharpened my wit, my daringness, my ability to open my mind & most importantly my love of life. Here I met The Gardner’s friend V-Gujral… whom I made him my kind of Soul-Friend…Here I made my life’s only best friend A-Kothary . Here also there are so many unforgettable faces which made some or non significant impact in my life…Sandy, Gopal, Hans Family, Behanji, Pooja, Ritu, Chand, Dr Hansaben.....another A-Kothary, Shakuben Family, Motiabhai & many more. I think my most loved years happened here…
 |
| 1986 USA |
Blessed with two boys again we moved to in the totally new world, Charlotte, USA. Aahhh… not only different society, but totally different country… but here we had The Gardner’s family… family of nine brothers & sisters… so strange here it was a fusion of our society (our samaj)) & other culture…and guess what yep my both persona from back homes made me easy to settled down here…The international culture has taught me to be more modest & practical. Here I became more close to my oldest bhabhi Vidulabhabhi. (Great loss from her demise)) Here I made friend with Dotsy, who pioneered me in learning of the ways of how this society works…here I met again Resh after so many years… and man again the old friendship flourished in the new environment…Here I made some cherished relationships & lost it too…here also many non-forgettable significant faces happened pinku,(I am trying to find right blog name for him)) Nayan, Savitaben, Supple oldest sister Pragnaben ,Taciturn middle sister Koki and my Candid little sister Kshama… and others in my opinion they were insignificant in my life…….On sunny side I am very in high spirits that my Silver Tongue son has finally found his love of life…& The Euphoric Chef is doing great in his standpoint life. I think my most learning years happened here…
 |
| My Parents |
I was a theist but only recently that I have discovered my faith and that has given me enormous peace.(thanks to my parents illness)) My time spent with my parents in their illness has given me more wisdom, the understanding of human physiology, to let go, ( anything) the meaning of sacrifice & mostly indifferences of relationships. (May be not in true sense in my father's point of view)) They both are epitome for me in my life. Their life is like a GITA or BIBLE to me… any question of my life gets an answer from it…At this point family( my own created, not by nature's)) is the most essential part in my life… I believe now everything is pre-destining, but you are given a various choices to get it done in life. Now I strongly believe that people always come into your life for a REASON or SEASON…nothing is permanent except only being you. But apart from this life is still beautiful & still attracts me with its full energy!!
About me I will be little modest…I panic easily on non important matters & can stay cool on serious one too… I am loving, caring, have strong mentality, loves attention, adventures, aggressive, hasty, and lazy in certain way & emotionally fool kind of a person. My consciences does not allow myself to escape from … my commitments, my desire to make my family more close nit…although everyone has their own right to act upon their choices.
 |
| Radhasoami |
I am thankful to my Malik for his Mehar & gave me a probability of being a life partner of The Gardner.( In my heart I know that he is big looser having me in his life)) I am very gratified to those who went with me & stayed with me through my this beautiful journey of life. I am also indebted to those people & situations which made me question about integrity of life, love, friendship & relationships… because without them I couldn’t have balanced out my journey of life
This blog of mine is a bit & bits of my thoughts, feelings, imaginations and flight of fancy. And I hope to discover different facets of myself in this process. On my more about life and mortality, my ill will & exposures… may be someday…I will indulge more…as this blog is my space. I shall never fear to fill it the way I desire to...
A Gypsy woman said
Ask your question about your life
Will give you an answer.
But I don’t want to be given answer. I want to find them.
I won’t ask you for an answer just point me a direction
And I will find my answer.
કથા મારા જીવનની પૂર્ણ થઇ ગઈ બે જ પ્રકરણમાં
મુકદર બાગમાં લાવ્યું, મોહબત્ત લઇ ગઈ રણમાં.
'બેફામ'
Love as ever billa driftwood.
No comments:
Post a Comment